De-Stress And Re-Focus

And Use acquired Self-Knowledge : No Blue November Day 19

Writing is an important exercise that I have been doing since childhood as a way to cultivate my sanity of mind and bringing peace within. I used to do it pen and paper in early childhood, now I do it online. And I solely write for myself, if someone reads it online and claps for it is okay, if none does, I don’t care at all.

Anyways, I was trying to cultivate focus again yesterday and I failed again, I am trying to work again on my ability of losing focus, and found out root of Stresses and Anxiety.

I will try to break it down in words here. First I will start with a mind map, I intended to give it later but I couldn’t resist myself to do it earlier( not to be mentioned I have recently learned the art of drawing mind maps and finding it incredibly easy to reveal my ideas with it and having so much fun doing it, but I have a worry of not doing it so much that I end up being bored of it as I become obsessed with whatever I find fun doing.

Reasons for my stressed out event lately

Reasons

Initially I had decided give a bit details of those reasons, but later thought if anyone needs explanation they can just easily search in Google

1. Fear Of Failure
2. Not Being Able to Let GO
3. Not Available Time: Use of Time in Another things, starting to work at very late

Current Coping Strategy

1. Binging on Food
2. Other Tasks than task in Hand such as Reading Other Books, Music, or all other priorities than what I have to deal now
3. Wandering: Taking Long walks, talking with people Voraciously
4. Masturbating Continuously ..watching Porn, High Testosterone Boost

End Result : Losing Focus, Adding more to failure

Outcome

1. Restlessness
2. Feeling Miserable
3. Headache- Warm Feeling in the back of Head
4. Sleeplessness

End Result: Degradation of quality of my life

Future Coping Strategy

1. Have More time — Start working early
2. Right and Ruthless Prioritisation — Stop procrastinating.
3. Let go of Need to Over Preparation, Start with Minimum Viable work and approach thing with that or show up.
4. Accept Failure and move on.

I failed to prioritise my writing for few days as I was pretending to be busy or got sucked in other things, then I started to think whether I should write all at once i.e 5–6 posts all-together or just let it be, keep writing organically one piece a Day.

I will go with one piece a Day and move on from the need for doing bulk work to fill the lost 4–5 days gap, I learned it from my father many years back.

With this on a wonderful … Day…( I am adding two more sections in my blog -(a) How much money I am spending each day, I got these idea from Thoreau’s book Walden ( b) what I am accomplishing each day to give some sense of fulfilment)

Shihab Uddin

24th November,2019 ( from British Council Libraries)